It's hard. It's hard being the fat girl when everyone around you is skinny. It's hard being the fat girl when most of the people you love is skinny.
Wanna go shopping with friends? I'm not even going to worry about bringing money because I know all of the stores they love aren't going to have my size. But I can't even let out my frustrations about stores not having my size with out being told I'm body shaming skinny people.
Until you can go into a store and be shocked when they have your size, instead of being shocked when they don't have your size, you don't get to have an opinion on how I should feel about it.
Anything you say anymore, has to be conscious of the other person. The other person who has things so much easier. The other person who's never had to struggle with dirty looks because they are eating in public. The other person who just doesn't get it.
I have hypothyroidism. A condition in which the thyroid gland doesn't produce enough thyroid hormone. What does this mean?
"Hypothyroidism upsets the normal balance of chemical reactions in your body. It seldom causes symptoms in the early stages, but over time, untreated hypothyroidism can cause a number of health problems, such as obesity, joint pain, infertility and heart disease."
Hypothyroidism is most common in women over 60. Imagine being a 19 year old finding out she has hypothyroidism, and not even knowing what this giant word means. Imagine a doctor not even taking the time to explain this, and a 19 year old having to do their own research on their body, finding out they will have this chronic illness for the rest of their life.
Common symptoms:
Fatigue
Increased sensitivity to cold
Constipation
Dry skin
Weight gain
Puffy face
Hoarseness
Muscle weakness
Elevated blood cholesterol level
Muscle aches, tenderness and stiffness
Pain, stiffness or swelling in your joints
Heavier than normal or irregular menstrual periods
Thinning hair
Slowed heart rate
Depression
Impaired memory
Imagine finding out you've been suffering from all of these symptoms for years, but you didnt think anything of it because you thought it was just a symptom of being fat.
All the times I was told to "just lose weight" over the years. All the times my OWN DOCTOR told me I needed to lose weight, when I was trying! I was eating maybe one meal a day, trying fad diets, taking pills, etc etc.
I was trying to lose the weight everyone told me was so bad, and my own doctor couldn't even take the time to see if something was wrong with me.
The worst part about finding this out? It makes things so much harder. I never remember to take my pills. Not taking my pills causes my body to freak out all over again. I'm in a constant cycle of feeling good and strong, and feeling terrible and weak. When I forget to take my pills, my body swells up, I get rashes, I have mood swings, I'm so tired I can barely stand. I have remembered to take my pills for 5 days now, and I've honestly never felt better.
All of this, to tell you that I honestly could not help my drastic weight gain. I honestly was trying. But none of you understand that. When you've been skinny your whole life, it's hard understanding the struggles that a plus sized person goes through. You dont know the battles people face.
And I get it. I know that people of all sizes have struggles. I do. But again, until you can go into a store and be shocked when they actually have your size, then we can talk. When you can actually eat Chinese in the mall with your boyfriend without having to pretend that people arent giving you dirty looks for having the decency to eat in public, we can talk. When you are shamed for eating in public (when it's probably you're only meal that day), we can talk. When you stay the night at someone's house, and forget to bring extra clothes and have to wear dirty clothes again the next day because you know they won't have your size just sitting in their closet, we can talk.
And I just want to clarify, that I dont always hate my body. I dont always envy people for being skinny. Most days I love myself, and feel empowered by my body. Most days, thick thighs save lives. But somedays I just wish I didnt have to work so hard to try and lose weight. Some days I wish I didnt have to lose weight, and that my weight was already ideal.
Some days I wish I weren't a morbidly obese 20 year old, but I better not say anything about it because I might offend someone who has it better.
My point to all of this? Just listen to people. Life isnt a competition of who has it worse, or who has the most struggles. If somebody needs to rant, hear them out. If someone is feeling down, help them up. If someone is hurting, give them pain relief.
Everyone hurts. Everyone has struggles. Everyone faces a new battle every single day. But you dont get to silence somebody else's voice when isn't something you would say or can personally relate to.
Everyone struggles, but dont be the person who silences them for your own benefit.